Couples / Marriage Therapy
When couples contact me for counseling, they tell me they are stuck – they’ve lost their way, they’ve grown apart and they don’t know how to get back on track. Someone … with much courage will then volunteer, “We just aren’t communicating.”
I help couples learn to communicate more effectively, become less blameful, express feelings / desires more appropriately, and ultimately find their way back to intimacy.
I work with couples to tackle all kinds of challenges including:
- Anger
- Depression and Anxiety
- Financial stress
- Infidelity
- Intimacy
- Isolation
- LGBTQ challenges as a couple and family
- Negative and positive impact of pornography
- Parenting and blended families
- Sexuality
- Workaholics
I integrate several therapeutic modalities however I primarily utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which has been empirically proven to be one of the most successful modalities for couples therapy.
Through empathic understanding and the use of experiential methods, clients learn how to make healthy contact with feelings, memories, thoughts, and physical sensations that have been ignored or feared and avoided.
By accessing adaptive emotions such as healthy grief, empowering anger, and compassion, people are able to use these as resources to transform maladaptive emotions such as fear, sadness of abandonment and shame of inadequacy that have developed from past negative learning or traumatic experiences.